The line between reality and your vivid imagination is blurred

Get this: Your mind can not differentiate between a vividly imagined and a real experience.
That’s a fact! 

It’s the reason why scary movies are scary. Which is why your mouth can start to water when you think of your favourite food… Or why you can freak yourself out by thinking about something that happened in the past… Or you can equally make yourself anxious by thinking about what could possibly go wrong…
It’s also why you shouldn’t attempt to do a stunt before you can actually imagine yourself doing it.

The old saying “what your mind can conceive, your body can achieve” is true. The opposite unfortunately is equally true! “What your mind can’t conceive, you won’t be able to achieve!” When you have no idea what it looks like, well then you can’t give your neurology instructions what to do.

Visualisation, most people have heard about it. And this is why it’s so useful to daydream positively. When you imagine yourself doing something well, it is as if you are rehearsing it mentally. Athletes have been using this fo decades! Have you ever noticed an athlete before a race mentally going through the course? You sometime see them turning, moving as if they were on the course… 

And because your mind can not differentiate between vividly imagine and a real experience the more you practice, visualise, rehearse what you want the better you get at it. While daydreaming. It won’t happen overnight so give yourself time. Then reward yourself for every improvement from where you were yesterday or just a few moments ago. Your benchmark is not where you want to be, it is where you came from! This is so important… Because rewarding yourself for what works makes your mind and body deliver more of it.
Today I am grateful for powerful visualisations and goals. As I am writing this I imagine you reading it and I can imagine all the good things you can achieve by using the power of your own mind to your advantage!

Enjoy your daydream!

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What do you want?

Have you ever thought that sometimes your mind plays tricks on you?

You know when you tell yourself to not think of something… Or you’re trying hard not to be nervous? Then you find you can’t stop thinking about it or you get even more nervous…? Even though you really, really, really don’t want to…?

Don’t think about a cute little squirrel, now… Please, no matter what, just don’t think about a squirrel with its button eyes and bushy tail!

Well, you can’t do it, can you? It’s actually called the 'Law of Reversed Effect'. Which means that whenever you use the word “Don’t” you get the exact opposite of what you wanted.

Why am I telling you all this? Because it’s useful!

Understanding the ‘Law of Reversed Effect’ is your first step to running your own mind more successfully.

So, bear with me. This is why it is not easy to not think of cute squirrels (especially while I keep reminding you, what they look like with their sweet eyes and bushy tails… Bahahaha).

This applies to different contexts too: The more you tell yourself “Don’t be nervous”, the more you automatically think about being nervous. You can’t help it. It’s the way your mind works…

Aaaand before you know it, you start to remember the last time you were nervous…

And if that wasn’t enough, you then proceed to tell yourself “Oh I don’t want that to happen again!” … And because your mind still can’t process the negation, you imagine exactly the same thing happening again… and you really don’t want that.

Whether you are consciously aware of all these unconscious processes or not, the effect is the same!

The first step to running your own mind even more successfully is understanding it. And now you are one step closer to that goal! The second step is using this for your own good!

So here is your 5-step mission, should you choose to accept it:

1) Stand guard at the gates of your own mind

2) Every time you notice thinking "don’t" instantly think about what the opposite of that for you is.

3) Always think about what you DO want! Start every day by writing down how you DO WANT yourself to be in certain situations. The more specific you are, the better!

4) Pay attention to how you are communicating with others. Make a habit of describing what you do want them to do, instead of what you don’t want them to do.

5) Have fun with it all!