I know, it's pretty obvious isn't it...?
So, different questions...?
Just compare the following questions:
a) This isn't working, so what's wrong with me?
* The reason it's not working is because there is something wrong with me and all I can do is find out what that is that is wrong with me...
b) This isn't working yet, so how can I adjust what I'm doing to make it work?
* I'm already doing something and I need to find what to adjust and how to adjust it...
c) This isn't working, so what steps do I need to take to make it work?
* I'm already doing something which isn't quite getting the results, so what are other steps I could take to make it work...?
Spot the difference?
Or how is this example, especially for people who talk to themselves in a nasty voice:
a) How come you never finish anything...? What's wrong with you?
* Again the answer can only be along the lines of what's wrong.
b) You haven't finished this thing yet, do you actually know how to finish it?
* Asks for skill / knowledge or lack thereof... You might surprised how often so called procrastination in reality is a complete lack of 'how to'... Which can be sometimes be quickly fixed: thank you internet, google and youtube
c) You haven't finished this thing yet, what needs to happen for you to finish it?
* Allows real exploration: It could be knowledge or a belief (e.g. I need to belief I can finish it), value, it's actually not important enough, I don't have the capabilities, I don't know where to start or whatever else...
Hence the answers you get depend on the questions you ask!
Have a fabulicious week with great questions and even better answers!